Today we’re scheduled to read Proverbs 6:20-35.
Proverbs 5 was devoted entirely to warning us against the sin of adultery. Here in 6:20-35, Solomon revisited that subject. In Proverbs 5:16-22 Solomon advised you to protect against adultery by prioritizing and enjoying sex within your marriage. That instruction came at the end of the teaching on adultery. Here in Proverbs 6:20-24 his recommendation for avoiding adultery comes at the beginning of the section, not the end as in chapter 5. Also unlike chapter 5, Solomon viewed his instructions as the antidote to adultery not an amorous marriage as in chapter 5. This suggests multiple layers of defense against this sin. One layer is a mind that is devoted to truth and prepares for the temptation of adultery (6:20-24). The other layer is a strong relationship with your spouse (5:16-22).
Let’s focus on that first layer, the one described here in 6:20-24. Verse 24 says that it is the teaching of godly parents (v. 20) that will keep “you from your neighbor’s wife.” How does that work exactly? Verses 25-29 tell us.
All temptations to sin consist of lies. Just as Satan promised Eve that disobeying God’s commands would liberate them to become “like God, knowing good and evil,” all temptations promise some kind of benefit with no cost. Adultery, of course, promises thrills and pleasure. If you feel yourself being attracted to someone else who is not your wife, the promise of that attraction is that the beauty of that person will be yours to enjoy (v. 25) if you begin a relationship with her.
But sin always hides the cost and Solomon’s teaching to his son in this passage is to consider the high cost of adultery (vv. 26-33). Sex with a prostitute is sinful but sex with another man’s wife is a much costlier sin (v. 26). It will bring punishment into your life (v. 29) just as surely as coals will burn you (vv. 27-28). If you learn this well when you are young, you will be able to see through the lies that temptation to adultery tell you and understand the real cost of the sin.
Adultery is so costly because of the social shame after the sin is exposed that adulterer’s bear. Some sins make sense to us such as stealing to avoid starvation (v. 30). Yet even that sin exacts a cost when the shoplifter is caught (v. 31). Our hearts go out to a starving man who steals because he is just trying to stay alive (v. 30) so when his fine for stealing is paid, that is the end of the matter (v. 31). Adultery is not disposed of so easily. Verse 33b says, “...his shame will never be wiped away.” In other words, if you get caught committing adultery, that is going to stick with you and become a permanent part of your story. At the very least, the spouse of the person you commit adultery with will not forget (vv. 34-35). In his quest to get justice, he will not hide what you did but will spread the word so that the maximum number of people possible hear about it.
In the moments of temptation, these truths can help you find your way out of temptation without sinning. If you can remember that the promises adultery make to you will prove to be false, it will be easier to say no when the temptation comes your way.
So, determine now to live a pure life and to remind yourself that the high cost of sin far outweighs the temporary pleasures the sin will offer you. This is the wise way to live--the pure way. May God give us grace to trust him and obey his word if any of us face this temptation in our lives.